It's the Start that Stops most people...
Many people have great ideas but those ideas, great as they may be, often never get off the ground because of their insecurity and doubts. The road to Hell, they say, is paved with Good Intentions.
Obviously, if you don’t start, you will never ever get finished – that goes without saying – but why do so many people find it difficult to start?
It’s all about the decision, because once you make the decision, you are committed to a particular course of action, and it’s the commitment that frightens people.
They worry that they don’t have the tools to see a project through to the end. They worry that they don’t have the capacity, knowledge and strength to be successful in something they have never done before.
The sad truth is that if they are thinking that, then they are right. 100% right.
As Henry Ford famously said, “If you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re always right”.
Never were truer words spoken.
It all comes down to self belief, and self belief is part of your subconscious paradigm, and is formed through your experiences in your formative years. It’s part of your ‘Story’.
It goes like this: let’s say you want to start a PROJECT. Now, that project is going to require EFFORT to be successful. The problem is that if your mindset is one of possible failure (“I don’t think it’ll work but I’ll give it a go…”) then you are unlikely to give it 100%.
Anything less than a concerted effort will quite likely result in failure, and that RESULT is a direct consequence of your ‘story’.
The RESULT now JUSTIFIES your STORY and the EFFORT you put in. (“See, I knew it wouldn’t work – it never does”)
Guess what happens next time you need to start a project!
It probably won’t even get started, because it won’t get past the decision stage.
The finest piano player in the world first sat at a piano and went ‘plonk’. It wouldn’t have sounded tuneful or good, and it would be the perfect time to quit. Self belief, desire and practice made him the best in the world, and the same is true for everyone. We are all good at something, and we all have the capacity to be good at other things too.
The trouble is that the final goal may just be too much: playing piano, running a marathon or anything else requires dedication and practice, and many people doubt their own abilities to achieve the ultimate goal.
The point is, you don’t need to know how you’re going to achieve your goal when you start your journey: Eddison didn’t know how to make a lightbulb when he started on his first of 1000 or so ‘failures’, he found out along the way how to make one that worked.
Better to start with small steps and build up to the bigger picture. The way to eat an elephant is one mouthful at a time…
Remember, ‘tried and failed’ isn’t failure, it’s just ‘haven’t succeeded yet’.